You and three of your best friends are spending the day together. You went for mani pedis, a massage and a cologen facial. Right now you feel at peace with the world and stress-free.
You top it off later by getting all dolled up and going out. You all go to one of the most popular nightclubs in town. The place is always lit and tonight is no different. You and your girls are looking fierce and exuding confidence.
The club is full of people from different ethnicities and backgrounds, that’s what makes it so great. You scan the room hoping to find a table big enough, a lot of the tables there are made for only two. You luck out and find a big enough table and hurry over and have a seat.
The DJ’s jamming your favorite tune and you bop to the beat as a waitress appears and asks if she could get you ladies anything. It’s not long before the guys start trying their luck and each one of you get an offer to the dance floor.
You’re all having a great time but as the night goes on that changes. One of your girls decides she’s leaving with this guy she just met. You look at each other in amazement because she made a pack with each of you, as you always do, to leave the same way she came, with her girls.
None of you can convince her that, that’s not a very good idea. She has already made up her mind and with a straight face tells you she’ll see you tomorrow.
What is it with women today? What causes a normally in control woman to toss all good sense aside and follow a total stranger? Yeah, yeah, we know the modern woman has evolved. We know she’s strong, independent and she answers to no one. But maybe she needs to answer to herself and the rational voice deep down inside of her.
She can do and be anything she wants to be. So why does she choose to be irresponsible…and in a way that’s very dangerous? What’s the drawing force that no one else sees? In spite of all the evolution and changes women has gone through, we can still be ladies with values.
You have to love and value yourself and unfortunately a lot of people don’t. You’re a child of the most high God, who’s made in his image and he loves you very much. His grace and mercy he gives you and it’s renewed everyday.
Ephesians 4:7 
But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.
Ephesians 2:8
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God
Studies have shown that even though a man would convince a woman to do something she may later regret, he’d rather marry the one that won’t get convinced. Per Tiffany Grace Reyes, men put women into two categories. Either you’re an easy lay or you’re hard to get.
She says that men, from the moment a woman steps into the room, whether it’s a club, a party or an office, it’s like men have this inexplicable radar that can detect if a woman is easy or not. Tiffany says men seem to have a finely tuned talent for seeing beyond the veiled looks and rehearsed smiles. They’re natural born hunters with the gift of seeking out the easy.
What changed that women don’t cherish their most prized possession anymore? Of course the guy who’s not ready to settle down would say that the woman who’s easier gets more attention and that’s who he wants to spend time with. He’s saying what he has to in order to get what he wants.
If you don’t ever want to get married then this doesn’t matter to you but if you do you must make a change if you’ve been easy pickings. You have to develop a different outlook and you must value yourself.
Men want to marry a woman who’s sexy without being trashy. A virtuous woman who carries herself with class. Someone who exudes confidence as well as virtue. Women used to know how to do this. They knew how to appeal to a man without sleeping with him the first time they met him. How to make him wonder and desire her…and how to relay the message…look but don’t touch.
Again, if getting married doesn’t matter to you as a woman then you don’t have to adhere to any of this. Continue to do you. But if you’re a Godly woman who wants to be married one day and have a family…make that change. Go to God, be sincere and dedicated and want to change…then talk to that woman in the mirror and really make that change!
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 31:10
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.
