So many people say they want real love, but do they? On the one hand they say they do but they don’t necessarily want what goes along with that love. They want the sunshine and blue skies but not the rainy days. Not realizing that you’re going to have both…it’s called life.
Nothing stays the same…
When you came into the world you were a newborn. Each and every newborn changes, not one will remain the same. Your body is designed by God and it goes through a metamorphosis with each passing day.
Real Love will develop into a relationship and it does the same thing.
When you first meet someone and you’re interested in them, you do everything you can to impress that person. You’re always on your best behavior whenever you’re around them and you’re always looking at the bright side. Everyone around you notice a change and say as much. And you…you feel like you’re walking on air.
Once you and that person really connect, you can’t stay away from each other. You want to spend every waking moment with them. This is how you know this is someone special. For some of us that’s scary because it’s never happened before…thus the beginnings of Real Love.
What’s next…
With that special relationship comes trust, honesty and a connection like no other. It’s all sunshine and lollipops now but with time the rain will fall.
Matthew 7:24-27 tells us of the wise man and the foolish man. The wise man built his house upon the rock which is a solid foundation. The foolish man built his house upon the sand which is unstable. When the rain came down, the stream rose and the winds blew and beat against the houses.
The one that remained was the one built on the solid foundation. The one built upon the sand fell with a great crash.
Commitment is the key…
When you enter into a committed relationship with someone and eventually get married, your relationship should be like that of the wise man. You must build it on a solid foundation and build on it as you grow.
Too often we are going into relationships with a preconceived outcome or a fairytale mentality. We think the part that says “And they lived happily ever after” means no disagreements, not having an opinion and no wanting to spend time with ourselves sometimes.
Or on the other hand we already have the mind set of ” if it don’t work out I’ll get a divorce.” You’ve already accepted your defeat.
You are two different people. Each one of you have your own mind, your own thoughts and your own opinions. That’s what makes you uniquely you and who you are.
Relationships change…
They grow and they mature. Things that were important to you as a child is not so much anymore. You realize that some things take presidence over others.
You’re going to have arguments and disagreements sometimes. You can’t cut and run every time you do.
Some people have affairs based on the rainy days part of the relationship. They go elsewhere looking and seeking for something that’s a band-aide. They want someone imaginary, with their mindset. Not realizing that that new person is being everything they want right now simply because they are someone new.
That person is saying and doing all the things that you want them to. That too will change.
Trust in God…
Life happens, it brings about a change. Which is why when you really and truly make a commitment to someone, you both must put your trust in God by putting him first. He lays the ground work for marriage and commitment in his word. He’s that solid foundation, the rock you need in order for your relationship to last.
He’s the calm when a storm rages and the joy in the good times. And if you cast all your cares on him he will give you that staying power. He will take care of it all.
Now I’m not saying that if someone is abusive to you or is always putting you down that you should stay there. If that person truly loves you they wouldn’t do that to you. And if you trust in God he will lead you out of that situation.
Marriage is a covenant…
And it should be taken seriously. You shouldn’t go into it with the mindset of getting out of it. Know that a covenant is a formal binding agreement. It shouldn’t be taken lightly or with the intent of breaking the agreement.
Most people think marriage is a contract. A contract is something you could have with anyone. Including someone who you don’t know personally as long as you agree with a written stipulation and the terms and sign it and date it.
A covenant is more personal and doesn’t have an expiration date. It’s something you should go into with your eyes wide open.
If you find Real Love you’ll want to keep it. You make little sacrifices and even do things you never thought you’d do for someone else. That’s what they call…selflessness and that’s what it’s all about.
Marriage is ordained by God; it is His institution. His word states in Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Study his word for your marriage, it’s the best guideline that you can have and relish in the fact that you will have a Real Love. And state that… yes…I do want Real Love!
