She scoured the internet in search of a lawyer. She didn’t want to ask around because she didn’t want anyone to know the situation just yet. She wasn’t quite sure if she was even gonna go through with a divorce, but at least she’d have a few lawyers lined up.
The marriage had lasted for 14 years and produced 3 children. Three wonderful children that were born out of love and commitment. They were a blessing from God in her life and part of the reason she’d stayed in the marriage as long as she did.
But now she’d had enough. Enough of the arguments, enough of the lies and now she’d found out there was cheating involved. That’s something she felt was unacceptable and unforgivable…or is it?
Everything had changed…
Her marriage was a far cry from what it used to be. She’d watched it crumble right before her very eyes and felt helpless. It had morphed into something that was unrecognizable and full of deceit. And for that, she felt sad.
In the beginning, she felt the love, she felt the trust and she felt the understanding but now it was different. And with this new revelation, she felt betrayed and she wanted it to end.
What is marriage?
It is a union between a man and a woman as partners in a personal relationship. But as Christians, it goes even further. Genesis 2:24 says Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
In marriage, you shouldn’t be ready to cut and run every time there’s a problem. You should have staying power and give it your all. Know that you must work at it the same way you work at your job. You do your best at work, make a conscious decision to do the same at home in your marriage.
Marriage isn’t easy but anything worth having is not gonna be easy, you have to give it your all. Remember this and think about it whenever problems arise.
Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman, instituted and ordained by God. It is more than sex, it is more than friendship (although both play a key role), it is the display of Christ for his bride (the church) and the covenant that comes along with it.
What is a covenant?
A covenant is something that can’t be broken. It’s a solemn agreement to commit, bind and give one’s word to enter into something for eternity. A contract, on the other hand, is a written agreement that can be broken or something that will only last for a specified period of time. Which one would you rather have?
Is this marriage salvageable?
Yes, it is! Even though she may be feeling disrespected and unloved, the marriage can be saved. It may not be easy but once you add the Lord to the mix and really want to make a change, this can be turned around. You can count on God to see you through.
Let love be your guide…
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Billy Graham: Treat your marriage as a gift from God, and let it blossom on the strength of Christ…and with God’s help you can be because that’s what he wants for you! The bible says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)
